Day: October 25, 2021

🌹 Are you an empath?

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I am an empath. I was born into a family of narcissists – my father and my brother. I also married a narcissist. The main difference between an empath and a narcissist is that narcissists do not have empathy, i.e. put themselves in other people’s shoes. Empaths have a natural ability to be empathic and often have boundary issues.

When I ask my husband to put himself in other people’s shoes, he’s able to do that and understand more about why the person said or did what they said or did. However, it is something that he has to intentionally do when being asked to.

Empaths have difficulty in setting boundaries for themselves. We have difficulty in knowing where our boundary ends and often have others extend into our boundary.

I am Miss Goody Two Shoes. Growing up in a very traditional family, I always felt that I’m supposed to do everything that the “norm” does, i.e. get a good educational degree, get married, have children, and have grandchildren, etc.

Seems that the Universe had other plans for me. I spent years of my life and my health to become a dentist, and yet, ended up feeling sick, experiencing pain, and having mild scoliosis due to long term poor posture. That was a huge turning point in my life. I was no longer following the “status quo” in our society. That was the first time I slowly started to realize that I have been living my life according to my parent’s dreams, and not my own. I don’t even know what I like or dislike anymore? It was all about people pleasing.

After learning more on my spiritual journey, I started to realize the reasons behind my beliefs and behavioral practices. I was an “accident”. Dad said nicely that I was a “pleasant accident”. However, I think I have that imprinted in my memory before I was even born. That I was not supposed to be born, and it was because of my parent’s mercy that I was allowed to be born. I think that’s why I have people-pleasing tendencies since I was a young child.

I remember after every dinner meal, I will tell mom, “Mom, thank you for dinner. It was delicious”, even when it wasn’t. Mom didn’t even seem to appreciate it as she probably got so used to hearing me saying it night after night.

We had two Doberman Pinschers back in South Africa that we raised since they were puppies, Jet a male, and Rora, a female. Jet was the first dog we’ve ever had, so we didn’t know how to raise him properly. I think Jet was an empath too. I say “was” because this was over 25 years ago, and I’m assuming that he has passed on to heaven now. Rora was a lot more fortunate as we kind of had an inkling as to how to raise a puppy after Jet. I think Jet also taught Rora a lot regarding life, and how to get along with our family.

Jet used to bark a lot. Dad would hit him when he does. Being an empath, and someone who also feels like I need to be responsible for everyone’s wellbeing, I’m always on high alert. So even if it’s early in the morning and I hear Jet barking, I will pull myself out of bed, go outside even when it’s in the freezing winter, and intentionally scold and hit (not hard though) Jet, especially for my dad to hear, so that he won’t hit Jet again. That’s how I am in life, always feeling responsible to make sure that everyone is happy, and no one gets hurt.

We later on bought two miniature French poodles, called “Tien Tien – sweetheart – female”, and “Xiao Baio – precious gift – male”. One time, Tien Tien peed on the floor near the front entrance and we didn’t notice it until dad came home and almost slipped. He instinctively kicked Tien Tien hard. I’m usually mild mannered, but I got so mad when he did that and yelled at him. I couldn’t believe that he had the heart to kick such a tiny little life, just because he almost slipped. That’s my dad. Don’t get me wrong, for I love him dearly. However, if you disobey him, or get in his way, then you will for sure feel his wrath.

Trauma Super Conference Index

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  • Day 1 – Mind Body Approaches – Part 1:
  • 1. Dr. Joe Dispenza – You are the placebo:
  • 2. Dr. Judith Orloff – Trauma healing for empaths & highly sensitive people: 😃 (10/25/21)
  • 3. JJ Virgin – Cultivating bold and brave resilience: (10/26/21 – 41:00)
  • 4. Caroline Myss – Why people don’t heal:
  • 5. Dr. Lissa Rankin – Sacred medicine for post traumatic growth:
  • 6. Alex Howard – Discover your emotional style:
  • 7. Dr. Jacob Teitelbaum – Integrative approaches to CFS and Fibromyalgia:
  • 8. Dr. Marc Sklar – Cultivating the mindset of fertility:
  • 9. Dr. David Brady – Strategies for healing Fibromyalgia and chronic pain:
  • 10. Dr. Heidi Hanna – Powerful practical strategies to manage stress:
  • 11. Misty Williams – Powerful and practical tools for optimising sleep:
  • 12. Nathan Crane – Cultivating post-traumatic growth:
  • 13. Dr. Ryan Wohlfert – The 6 steps to supercharging your brain:
  • 14. Dr. Ameet Aggarwal – Family constellations and homeopathy for trauma healing:
  • 15. Alex Howard – Filmed Therapy – Recovery in a toxic environment:
  • 16. Lisa Sanfilippo – Yoga Courage:
  • 17. Alex Howard – Meditation – Simple Guided Meditation
  • Day 2 – Functional Medicine Approaches – Part 1:
  • 1. Dr. Kelly Brogan – The value of functional medicine approaches for the future of mental healthcare:
  • 2. Dr. Izabella Wentz – How to optimize thyroid function: 😃 (12/14/21)
  • 3. Dr. William Walsh – Cutting edge nutritional strategies to optimize mental health:
  • 4. Dr. Ben Lynch – Clean your genes for optimum mood:
  • 5. Dr. Tom O’Bryan – Powerful tools to optimise brain health:
  • 6. Dr. Daryl Gioffre – Balancing blood sugar for mental wellbeing:
  • 7. Dr. Neil Nathan – How to overcome Lyme, mold and co-infections:
  • 8. Evan Brand – Healing candida and parasites:
  • 9. Dr. Paul Thomas – Mind and body approaches to healing addiction:
  • 10. Dr. Alireza Panahpour – Role of oral health on mental and physical wellbeing:
  • 11. Joe Cohen – Self-hacking trauma recovery:
  • 12. Andrea Nakayama – Post Trauma Growth and Functional Nutrition for Optimum Health:
  • 13. Alex Howard – Filmed Therapy – Open up to your feelings:
  • 14. Charlotte Watts – Yoga – Energizing without agitating:
  • 15. Alex Howard – Meditation – Meditation to calm your nervous system:
  • Day 3 – Brain, Nervous System and Somatic:
  • 1. Dr. Stephen Porges – Polyvagal theory and how to regulate the nervous system:
  • 2. Dr. Peter Levine – Waking your tiger:
  • 3. Irene Lyon – Tune up your nervous system:
  • 4. Dr. Arielle Schwartz – EMDR for trauma healing: 😃 (07/15/21)
  • 5. Dr. Datis Kharrazian – Strategies for brain regeneration:
  • 6. Dr. Elisa Song – How to switch off the cell danger response:
  • 7. Jodi Cohen – How to stimulate your vagus nerve:
  • 8. Heather Mason – Yoga therapy for trauma:
  • 9. Aaron Alexander – How to heal trauma through movement:
  • 10. Mark Walsh – Coming home to the body:
  • 11. Phaedra Antioco – Building safety with myofascial release and somatic work:
  • 12. Dr. Eva Detko – How to balance the vagus nerve: 😃 (07/12/21)
  • 13. Dr. Veronique Mead – Healing the freeze response: 😃 (07/12/21)
  • 14. Filmed Therapy – Reconnect your mind and body:
  • 15. Heather Mason – Yoga – Emotional stability through yoga:
  • 16. Alex Howard – Meditation – Self-love meditation
  • Day 4 – Energetic Approaches:
  • 1. Lynne McTaggart – Using intention for optimum physical and mental health:
  • 2. Dr. Gerald Pollack – The fourth phase of water for optimum health:
  • 3. Dr. Rollin McCraty – Using heart energy to build resilience:
  • 4. Ari Whitten – Red light therapy for optimum health:
  • 5. Dr. Eric Zielinski – Essential oils for healing trauma:
  • 6. Dr. James Oschman – Earthing for supercharged wellbeing:
  • 7. Wendy Myers – Information medicine to heal emotions:
  • 8. Eileen McKusick – Sound therapy for resolving trauma:
  • 9. Dr. William Pawluk – PEMF therapy for healing trauma:
  • 10. Jason Prall – Plant medicine for healing trauma:
  • 11. Dr. Mary Clifton – CBD, cannabis, and healing trauma:
  • 12. Alberto Villoldo – healing trauma with shamanism:
  • 13. Robby Besner – Sauna therapy optimum psycho-emotional health:
  • 14. Lloyd Burrell – Practical strategies to manage EMF’s for optimum mental health:
  • 15. Master Mingtong Gu – Healing trauma with Qi Gong:
  • 16. Penny Croal – Matrix reimprinting for trauma resolution:
  • 17. Jonathon Otto – Herbal adaptogens and plant medicine for healing and growth:
  • 18. John Amaral – Somatic energy healing to move from fight-flight to flow:
  • 19. Harry Massey – Trauma release through information medicine and imprinted water:
  • 20. Alex Howard – Filmed therapy – Understand fear and anxiety:
  • 21. Ammee Poulton – Yoga – Roots:
  • 22. Alex Howard – Meditation – Cultivating trust meditation:
  • Day 5 – Social and Developmental Approaches:
  • 1. Dr. Gabor Mate – Healing trauma with compassionate inquiry:
  • 2. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk – Understanding trauma and how to heal it:
  • 3. Dr. Christiane Northrup – Dealing with energy vampires:
  • 4. A H Almaas – Suffering as a portal to spiritual realisation:
  • 5. Thomas Hubl – Healing collective trauma:
  • 6. Nkem Ndefo – Building capacity for healing racial trauma:
  • 7. Racial Trauma Panel – Understanding and healing racial trauma – panel discussion:
  • 8. Dr. Kira Banks – Raising equity with systemic change:
  • 9. Valerie Mason-John – The trauma of black bodies:
  • 10. Karine Bell – How our childhood shapes our life:
  • 11. Dr. Diane Poole Heller – Attachment styles and healing attachment trauma:
  • 12. Dr. Keesha Ewers – Resolving childhood sexual trauma:
  • 13. Ross Rosenberg – Healing self-love deficit:
  • 14. Carla Atherton – Healing emotional root causes of illness:
  • 15. Dr. Laurence Heller – Understanding and healing developmental trauma:
  • 16. Elisabet Sahtouris – Lessons from nature and evolutionary biology:
  • 17. Patricia Fennell – The four phases of chronic illness:
  • 18. Dr. Jonice Webb – The crucial impact of childhood emotional neglect:
  • 19. Razi Berry – How love supports trauma healing:
  • 20. Victor Lee Lewis – The colour of fear:
  • 21. Dr. Leonard Jason – Addressing the social root causes of chronic health conditions:
  • 22. James Maskell – The healing power of community
  • 23. Alex Howard – Filmed Therapy – The courage to feel:
  • 24. Lisa Sanfilippo – Yoga – Simple sequence to support sleep:
  • 25. Alex Howard – Meditation – Compassion meditation:
  • Day 6 – Mind Body Approaches – Part 2:
  • 1. Nick Ortner – Resolve your anxiety with tapping:
  • 2. Paul McKenna – Havening techniques for healing trauma:
  • 3. Dr. David Perlmutter – Overcoming disconnection syndrome:
  • 4. Dr. Christine Schaffner – Multifactorial approaches to healing emotional trauma:
  • 5. Dr. Pedram Shojai – Practical tips for healing emotional trauma:
  • 6. Niki Gratrix – Love is the best medicine:
  • 7. Diane Kazer – Practical wisdom for cultivating self-love:
  • 8. Dr. David Hamilton – The science of self-love
  • 9. Dr. Dietrich Klinghardt – The 5 levels of healing:
  • 10. Ken Wilber – 4 quadrant theory for optimum emotional and physical health:
  • 11. Mastin Kipp – Healing trauma to live your purpose:
  • 12. Dr. Hyla Cass – How to safely and effectively taper off psychiatric medications:
  • 13. Alex Howard – Filmed therapy – Finding a balance:
  • 14. Charlotte Watts – Yoga – Yoga for stressed and wired:
  • 15. Alex Howard – Meditation – Meditation on the breath:
  • Day 7 – Functional Medicine Approaches – Part 2:
  • 1. Trudy Scott – Fast acting nutrition and lifestyle solutions for chronic anxiety:
  • 2. Dr. Joseph Mercola – Cultivating immune resilience:
  • 3. Dr. Aristo Vojdani – Testing for food and chemical sensitivities:
  • 4. Dr. Carrie Jones – Optimizing hormone balance for emotional wellbeing:
  • 5. Dr. Daniel Pompa – Detoxification strategies for mental wellness:
  • 6. Dr. Jeff Bland – Functional medicine for optimum healing:
  • 7. Dr. Michael Ruscio – Transforming mood by healing digestive function:
  • 8. Dr. Jess Armine – Neurotransmitters for emotional balance:
  • 9. Dr. Kara Fitzgerald – DNA methylation and trauma healing:
  • 10. Dr. Margaret Christensen – How to heal from toxic mold exposure:
  • 11. Donna Gates – Eat right for your genetics:
  • 12. Alex Howard – Filmed therapy – Managing your inner critic:
  • 13. Heather Mason – Yoga – Elongating your breath to destress:
  • 14. Alex Howard – Meditation – Gratitude meditation: