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11 Signs You’ve Found The ONE 🥰🎆

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11 Signs You’ve Found the One! ~ A New Mode
  • We tend to date “potential”. We tend to date what we “want”, and not what we actually “need”.
  • 11 Signs You’ve Found the One:
  • 1. He loves your good qualities, and loves and embraces your flaws:
  • He accepts your flaws and doesn’t make you feel guilty for your flaws as being a part of who you are.
  • 2. He’s there for you, even when it’s inconvenient:
  • If he can’t be there for you, in the way you need him to be, then he’s not the right one for you.
  • 3. He considers you when making decisions; both big and small:
  • He sees you in the long haul. He factors you in when he is serious about you.
  • 4. He is growth oriented:
  • Is he focused on growing, on refining his character.
  • Don’t find the kind of person who says, “I am who I am”, especially in the areas that are hurtful to you, e.g. if he is an insensitive person.
  • 5. You share common beliefs and values:
  • A relationship can not survive on just chemistry alone.
  • 6. He views you as his partner:
  • He sees you as his equal, not just there to feed his ego.
  • 7. He is willing to put effort into the relationship:
  • You’re not the only one doing all the work to make the relationship work.
  • If he is the “one”, then he will do whatever it takes to make it work.
  • 8. You are able to communicate with each other:
  • Communication is key in a relationship, with compatible communication styles.
  • He can “hear” you.
  • You can bring up the “tough” stuff.
  • 9. He’s trustworthy:
  • You can be open and honest with him.
  • You can also trust that he will not just leave you unexpectedly.
  • Deep down, you just know it. You know when someone is on the same page as you. You know when someone is serious about you.
  • 10. He’s your biggest fan:
  • He wants the best for you.
  • He wants to see you “win”, without wanting to compete with you.
  • 11. You’re on the same page:
  • Choose the guy who wants the same kind of relationship you want.
  • You can not date “potential”.
  • Take it all at face value. If he says that he doesn’t want a relationship, believe him.
  • Take ownership and responsibilities for your own trauma. Make sure that you’re own insecurities are not getting in the way.

👎 12 Signs He’s Emotionally Unavailable

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12 Signs He’s Emotionally Unavailable ~ ANewMode
  • It’s not your job to fix people who are emotionally unavailable.
  • If they’re not willing to deal with their issues and change, then there’s nothing you can do about it.
  • 12 Signs He’s Emotionally Unavailable:
  • 1. He’s always “Fine”:
  • He always says that “Everything’s fine”. If you have a problem, then it’s your problem.
  • 2. He’s inconsistent:
  • He runs hot and cold and you never know where you stand with him.
  • His attitude towards you is inconsistent. He may be just not that into you.
  • 3. He shuts you out:
  • He’s in withdrawal mode more than he is in relationship mode.
  • 4. He’s a perfectionist:
  • He criticizes everything; big and small. Nothing is ever good enough.
  • Him finding things wrong with you, is an excuse as to why he is not progressing with you further in this relationship.
  • 5. He dismisses your feelings:
  • He doesn’t show you any empathy. He doesn’t try to see where you are coming from.
  • He just can’t handle feelings.
  • 6. He is need-centered, i.e. selfish:
  • The relationship runs on his time and when it’s convenient for him.
  • 7. He basically tells you:
  • He might tell you that he’s scared of commitment, or that he’s bad at relationships. Believe him!
  • Don’t let your compassion override your sense of reasoning here.
  • You’re not his therapist. You’re his partner.
  • 8. He’s unreliable. He’s a flake.
  • When he says he’ll be there, it means he “might” be there, if it’s convenient for him.
  • 9. He doesn’t want to talk about the relationship:
  • Just to check in, see where you’re at.
  • Talking about issues is the only way to solve them.
  • He’ll use very avoidance tactic; joke about it, deflection, etc.
  • 10. He’s dishonest:
  • 11. Anger is the only emotion he expresses:
  • His emotional spectrum basically consists of being “fine”, and being “angry”, with very little in between.
  • 12. There’s no stability in the relationship:
  • It’s in emotional rollercoaster.
  • What to do if you are with an emotionally unavailable man?
  • You have to realize that you can not force someone to change.
  • Honestly ask yourself if you’re okay with it. Can he meet your emotional needs? If not, then this is not the relationship for you.