- It’s not your job to fix people who are emotionally unavailable.
- If they’re not willing to deal with their issues and change, then there’s nothing you can do about it.
- 12 Signs He’s Emotionally Unavailable:
- 1. He’s always “Fine”:
- He always says that “Everything’s fine”. If you have a problem, then it’s your problem.
- 2. He’s inconsistent:
- He runs hot and cold and you never know where you stand with him.
- His attitude towards you is inconsistent. He may be just not that into you.
- 3. He shuts you out:
- He’s in withdrawal mode more than he is in relationship mode.
- 4. He’s a perfectionist:
- He criticizes everything; big and small. Nothing is ever good enough.
- Him finding things wrong with you, is an excuse as to why he is not progressing with you further in this relationship.
- 5. He dismisses your feelings:
- He doesn’t show you any empathy. He doesn’t try to see where you are coming from.
- He just can’t handle feelings.
- 6. He is need-centered, i.e. selfish:
- The relationship runs on his time and when it’s convenient for him.
- 7. He basically tells you:
- He might tell you that he’s scared of commitment, or that he’s bad at relationships. Believe him!
- Don’t let your compassion override your sense of reasoning here.
- You’re not his therapist. You’re his partner.
- 8. He’s unreliable. He’s a flake.
- When he says he’ll be there, it means he “might” be there, if it’s convenient for him.
- 9. He doesn’t want to talk about the relationship:
- Just to check in, see where you’re at.
- Talking about issues is the only way to solve them.
- He’ll use very avoidance tactic; joke about it, deflection, etc.
- 10. He’s dishonest:
- 11. Anger is the only emotion he expresses:
- His emotional spectrum basically consists of being “fine”, and being “angry”, with very little in between.
- 12. There’s no stability in the relationship:
- It’s in emotional rollercoaster.
- What to do if you are with an emotionally unavailable man?
- You have to realize that you can not force someone to change.
- Honestly ask yourself if you’re okay with it. Can he meet your emotional needs? If not, then this is not the relationship for you.