- We tend to date “potential”. We tend to date what we “want”, and not what we actually “need”.
- 11 Signs You’ve Found the One:
- 1. He loves your good qualities, and loves and embraces your flaws:
- He accepts your flaws and doesn’t make you feel guilty for your flaws as being a part of who you are.
- 2. He’s there for you, even when it’s inconvenient:
- If he can’t be there for you, in the way you need him to be, then he’s not the right one for you.
- 3. He considers you when making decisions; both big and small:
- He sees you in the long haul. He factors you in when he is serious about you.
- 4. He is growth oriented:
- Is he focused on growing, on refining his character.
- Don’t find the kind of person who says, “I am who I am”, especially in the areas that are hurtful to you, e.g. if he is an insensitive person.
- 5. You share common beliefs and values:
- A relationship can not survive on just chemistry alone.
- 6. He views you as his partner:
- He sees you as his equal, not just there to feed his ego.
- 7. He is willing to put effort into the relationship:
- You’re not the only one doing all the work to make the relationship work.
- If he is the “one”, then he will do whatever it takes to make it work.
- 8. You are able to communicate with each other:
- Communication is key in a relationship, with compatible communication styles.
- He can “hear” you.
- You can bring up the “tough” stuff.
- 9. He’s trustworthy:
- You can be open and honest with him.
- You can also trust that he will not just leave you unexpectedly.
- Deep down, you just know it. You know when someone is on the same page as you. You know when someone is serious about you.
- 10. He’s your biggest fan:
- He wants the best for you.
- He wants to see you “win”, without wanting to compete with you.
- 11. You’re on the same page:
- Choose the guy who wants the same kind of relationship you want.
- You can not date “potential”.
- Take it all at face value. If he says that he doesn’t want a relationship, believe him.
- Take ownership and responsibilities for your own trauma. Make sure that you’re own insecurities are not getting in the way.