👎 12 Signs He’s Emotionally Unavailable

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12 Signs He’s Emotionally Unavailable ~ ANewMode
  • It’s not your job to fix people who are emotionally unavailable.
  • If they’re not willing to deal with their issues and change, then there’s nothing you can do about it.
  • 12 Signs He’s Emotionally Unavailable:
  • 1. He’s always “Fine”:
  • He always says that “Everything’s fine”. If you have a problem, then it’s your problem.
  • 2. He’s inconsistent:
  • He runs hot and cold and you never know where you stand with him.
  • His attitude towards you is inconsistent. He may be just not that into you.
  • 3. He shuts you out:
  • He’s in withdrawal mode more than he is in relationship mode.
  • 4. He’s a perfectionist:
  • He criticizes everything; big and small. Nothing is ever good enough.
  • Him finding things wrong with you, is an excuse as to why he is not progressing with you further in this relationship.
  • 5. He dismisses your feelings:
  • He doesn’t show you any empathy. He doesn’t try to see where you are coming from.
  • He just can’t handle feelings.
  • 6. He is need-centered, i.e. selfish:
  • The relationship runs on his time and when it’s convenient for him.
  • 7. He basically tells you:
  • He might tell you that he’s scared of commitment, or that he’s bad at relationships. Believe him!
  • Don’t let your compassion override your sense of reasoning here.
  • You’re not his therapist. You’re his partner.
  • 8. He’s unreliable. He’s a flake.
  • When he says he’ll be there, it means he “might” be there, if it’s convenient for him.
  • 9. He doesn’t want to talk about the relationship:
  • Just to check in, see where you’re at.
  • Talking about issues is the only way to solve them.
  • He’ll use very avoidance tactic; joke about it, deflection, etc.
  • 10. He’s dishonest:
  • 11. Anger is the only emotion he expresses:
  • His emotional spectrum basically consists of being “fine”, and being “angry”, with very little in between.
  • 12. There’s no stability in the relationship:
  • It’s in emotional rollercoaster.
  • What to do if you are with an emotionally unavailable man?
  • You have to realize that you can not force someone to change.
  • Honestly ask yourself if you’re okay with it. Can he meet your emotional needs? If not, then this is not the relationship for you.