Yep, those two are sleeping with each other! There’s no good explanation for the two of them to be behind closed doors in that small room; especially when they know that it’s not a busy time, and that there’s no one else around.
I had suspected this all along, especially because she will always walk back to check on what he’s doing to me when we’re together. The way she talks to him sometimes, is also not the appropriate way for colleagues to speak with one another.
He doesn’t seem to have that much taste in women. It would make sense though, since he’s just looking for an ego boost to help with his low self-esteem. Therefore, the easiest & fastest way to achieve that, is by choosing quantity over quality.
When he asked me last year who was I’m moving into the hotel with (during our townhouse’s mold demolition and restoration phase), I told him that it was with my husband. I then asked about his relationship status ~ whether he’s married, and whether he has any kids? He only replied two words, “Just me“.
Since then, I’ll admit that we both had been acting weird around each other, but he also tried his damnedest best to make me dissociate and brainwash me, and often played carefully picked songs in the background, as if he was speaking to me through the lyrics.
After I dissociated, there were things he said to me or did to me that I was unable to process at the time. But all the memories came back to me afterwards. I know what you did to me, and what you said to me, when you thought that I had dissociated and wouldn’t be able to process them or remember them afterwards!
I don’t know if he had ever developed any genuine feelings towards me, but what I do know is that he is sexually attracted to me and wants to sleep with me.
He got very upset when he found out that not only was I working 3 jobs at the time, but I was also taking care of everything else, and the only thing my husband did was work, my husband didn’t help out with anything.
So this player said to me, “It’s time to put that husband of yours to work!“. I realized later on that this was his justification for seducing me. I didn’t even feel like he treated me as a human being with feelings. I felt like he objectified me. That’s why he was able to just hurt me physically when he felt jealous (e.g., because I thought that the pronunciation of someone’s surname sounded cute), or got upset with me (e.g., for being concerned that the person in front of me may be contagious with Covid, or when I got upset that he thought that I just had a haircut, but I actually had it the week prior and I saw him just a day or two after I had the haircut). I am NOT a toy! I AM a real person, with real feelings, that you messed with so badly, for so long!!!!!!
My friend got concerned as to why I keep on getting hurt by him? Sometimes, I wonder if he intentionally causes me an injury, just so that I have to see him more often? My body was just starting to feel stronger recently, and then he “accidentally” caused me an injury again.
What was really unfair and immoral of his behavior was that he seduced me after making me dissociate ~ in my most vulnerable state of mind. He didn’t even care that I had to drive afterwards and may get involved in a car accident because I was still dissociating. He basically wanted to brainwash me, and get me to make the first move, so that he can ease his own conscience and say that it was I who hit on him first, which I never did.
What was also very hurtful was that even if he was being honest with me when he said “Just me”, he never bothered to tell me otherwise, after he had found someone else. He just decided to leave me hanging forever as this “Option”, for him to turn to at any time in the future, should things not go well in his relationship with someone else. He never ever thought of just being honest with me and treating me as a friend. I treated him as a close friend, and have always been genuinely concerned about his health and wellbeing. I learned a new slang from him. “Doing the dishes” meant to be “Doing (Having sex with) someone” – another lie he told me!
He completely destroyed the already fragile relationship I had with my husband, to the point where I think that it can no longer be repaired. Yet, there he is, still screwing people left and right, with me left completely alone to pick up the shattered pieces of my marriage and of my life, all thanks to him!
Thank you Universe for letting me witness this myself yesterday, and for finally providing me with the closure that he has never had the audacity and respect to provide me with.
I would have never developed any romantic feelings towards him, had I known that he was with another person. I wonder how many other people he has played?
If he was a woman, then he would be labeled a “whore”! That’s what I’m going to call him from now on, “manho”. That’s also the first thing that will come to my mind when I see him. He can go and sleep around with his ugly ho’s and catch STD’s, if he has not already have. Ho’s of a feather flock together!
Karma is a Bitch! He lied to me, manipulated me in my most vulnerable state, and played with my feelings for a very very long time. What goes around comes around. This player will get what he deserves one day. Justice will be served!
Somebody That I Used to Know
~ Gotye
Now and then I think of when we were together
Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
Told myself that you were right for me
But felt so lonely in your company
But that was love and it’s an ache I still remember
You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness
Like resignation to the end, always the end
So when we found that we could not make sense
Well you said that we would still be friends
But I’ll admit that I was glad it was over
But you didn’t have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don’t even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and that feels so rough
No, you didn’t have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records and then change your number
I guess that I don’t need that though
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know
Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
But had me believing it was always something that I’d done
But I don’t wanna live that way
Reading into every word you say
You said that you could let it go
And I wouldn’t catch you hung up on somebody that you used to know
But you didn’t have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don’t even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and that feels so rough
No, you didn’t have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records and then change your number
I guess that I don’t need that though
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know
Somebody (I used to know)
(Somebody) Now you’re just somebody that I used to know
Somebody (I used to know)
(Somebody) Now you’re just somebody that I used to know
I used to know, that I used to know, I used to know somebody