Month: August 2022

I had my Court Zoom meeting yesterday afternoon. I’m glad my ex-husband showed up early, even earlier than I did.

We both got checked in online into another Zoom meeting room and waited a few minutes for the prosecutor to arrive. This is one instance that reminds me of certain similarities that my ex and I share. Since the meeting is being recorded, both of us knew not to say anything. When it comes to the legal system, the less you disclose, the better. Do not speak unless you are being asked to answer, as anything you say may be used against you. We did not speak one word to each other while waiting for the prosecutor to arrive. I did text him to let him know that we are still waiting for the prosecutor to arrive, and was glad that both of us also knew to put our phones on silent mode.

The prosecutor for that city, Mr. A, arrived shortly and asked me to state my name. He confirmed that I was requesting for this court meeting because I was not the one who was talking on the cellphone while driving. He then asked my ex-husband to state his name. We also knew not to complicate things by telling Mr. A that we are in the process of getting divorced, since that really has nothing to do with the case. So, I still referred to my ex-husband as my husband.

I would say ever since the beginning of last year, I have not closely looked at my ex. I’ll ‘look’ but I don’t ‘see’. While we were waiting for the prosecutor to arrive, I suddenly ‘saw’ my ex. Even after all these years, he still has this boyish charm on his face. He also looks like a kind person as well. I think this is another reason why even though he has violated the traffic laws so many times in his life, he didn’t get pulled over that often. He actually has a pleasant demeanor, unless you’re his close family, or a subordinate that he has a beef with.

I really think I ended up marrying someone like my dad. To the outside world, my dad is this handsome, friendly, intelligent, kind person. No one knows of his violent rages except for my mom and us kids. But I do believe that my dad is a kind person, just as I believe that my ex-husband is a kind person as well. I guess they’ve learned to deal with adversities in a cold, harsh way because of the traumas they’ve experienced, especially at a very young age. However, deep down to the core, they are still kind people.

Mr. A asked my ex if it was indeed him who was talking on the cellphone while driving, and my ex admitted to it sincerely, and without any hesitation. Sometimes, my ex will be rude to someone that has a connection to me, just to spite me, or annoy me. However, I could feel his sincerity this time and was pretty touched by it actually. I could feel that he just wanted to admit guilt and get me out of this mess that he (and the issuing officer) created in the first place.

I guess Mr. A was also impressed by his honesty and sincerity as well. Mr. A said that he will dismiss my citation and will probably have to contact the issuing officer to reissue the citation to my ex instead. I had already warned my ex beforehand that the prosecutor may do that. So my ex and I did not speak a word, or show any signs of discontent on our faces.

The prosecutor then started to say that he is thinking of not going by that route, but he has to try to find a way to make this whole thing seem fair. Mr. A asked my ex if he was willing to meet him half-way? My ex quickly said “Yes!”. Mr. A then asked my ex to take a MN “Distracted Driving” course online, and I immediately started searching on Google for that website. However, before I even found the link to that course, Mr. A changed his mind and said that it wouldn’t be fair to me (to keep my case open until my ex has finished the course, since it has nothing to do with me), but that it also wouldn’t be fair to the issuing officer to just drop this case as is.

I then decided to plead on my ex-husband’s behalf and asked Mr. A if it would be possible to just give my ex a verbal warning for this first time offense? Mr. A kindly agreed to it and basically gave both my ex and I a talk about the seriousness of being distracted while driving, which I totally agree with.

I also took this opportunity to clarify whether it is legal or not to look at our cellphones while waiting at a red light? Mr. A said that it is Not. He said that in the past, the police officers will pull people over and just give them a verbal warning but because of the increase in fatalities due to distracted driving, they are now issuing citations for that as well. Mr. A said that even though you are stopped at a red light, but your engine is still running. Therefore, you are still considered to be in a moving vehicle. So, that is definitely good to know! Mr. A said that it’s best to just not touch your cellphone until you reach your destination, which I totally agree with as well.

Mr. A said that he will be the prosecutor for that city for a long time so he is trusting that my ex will not be touching his cellphone while driving again. He then said that he will dismiss my citation and wished the both of us a great weekend. We wished him the same as well.

I am so happy that my ex showed up on time, that he sincerely admitted guilt without any hesitation, and that Mr. A showed kindness and compassion by letting my ex off with just a verbal warning for this first time offense. I truly do hope that my ex has learned his lesson and will not ever touch his cellphone again while driving. That’s what I’m going to do as well from now on. 😛

If we can all show love 💗 and compassion towards one another, then this world will be such a better place. All You Need Is Love! 🥰

🥰 All You Need Is Love 💗!

~ The Beatles

Love, love, love
Love, love, love
Love, love, love

There’s nothin’ you can do that can’t be done
Nothin’ you can sing that can’t be sung
Nothin’ you can say, but you can learn how to play the game
It’s easy
Nothin’ you can make that can’t be made
No one you can save that can’t be saved
Nothin’ you can do, but you can learn how to be you in time
It’s easy

All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need

All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need

There’s nothin’ you can know that isn’t known
Nothin’ you can see that isn’t shown
There’s nowhere you can be that isn’t where you’re meant to be
It’s easy

All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need
All you need is love (all together now)
All you need is love (everybody)
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need

Love is all you need (love is all you need)
Love is all you need (love is all you need)
Love is all you need (love is all you need)
Love is all you need (love is all you need)
Love is all you need (love is all you need)
Love is all you need (love is all you need)
Love is all you need (love is all you need)
Love is all you need (love is all you need)
Love is all you need (love is all you need)
Love is all you need (love is all you need)
Love is all you need (love is all you need)
Yee-hay (love is all you need)
(Love is all you need)
(Love is all you need)
Yesterday
(Love is all you need)
Oh
Love is all you need
Love is all you need (oh yeah)
Love is all you need
(She loves you, yeah, yeah, yeah)
(She loves you, yeah, yeah, yeah)
(Love is all you need)
(Love is all you need)
(Love is all you need)
(Love is all you need)
(Love is all you need)
(Love is all you need)

I like Paul Walker a lot. Not only is he handsome and talented, but he also has a kind heart. He founded a charity organization in 2010 to help survivors of natural disasters. This is the kind of person that deserves to be wealthy. This is the kind of person that deserves to live a long and happy life. Sadly, he passed away in a car accident in 2013 at the young age of 40.

I often feel a stone in my heart when I watch the ending scene at 3:16 mins where Paul Walker and Vin Diezel look at each other for the last time before driving off into the sunset onto separate roads.

It’s kind of a sad irony that Paul Walker died while enjoying what he loved the most ~ riding in a fast car, but was tragically burned to death. RIP Paul Walker…

This song, and the splitting of the roads reminds me of my family. How I was basically separated from them ever since my dad got transferred back to Taiwan, when I was still in dental school in South Africa.

I went back to visit them for a month each year until I got married 14 years ago. My ex-husband and I started to visit them again a few years ago; also for a month each year, until the company he worked for went under in 2019. I was going to go visit them on my own in 2020 but then Covid struck, and it’s still bad in Taiwan, and many other countries in Asia right now. I’d still have to stay in a quarantine hotel first if I were to go and visit them now.

I’m planning on visiting them sometime next year. Hopefully, Covid will be stabilized over there by then. I miss my family and I miss my sister very much. I want to start planning it so that I can go and see her at her psychiatric institution when I go back to Taiwan and visit them.

The split in the road in the video reminds me of my sister and I. When we were back in high school, we both agreed that we will both become dentists and open a clinic together, then buy a mansion in Hawaii for all of us to live together.

She did get accepted into dental school, and I even finished dental school, but look where we are now? She’s in a psychiatric institution, and I’m still trying to figure out what to do with my life after my divorce.

We are no longer together. We are so far apart. Not just by distance, but by communication as well. My sister used to tell me that she gets worried that we’ll become distant because she’s in Taiwan and I’m in the US. However, every time I come back to see them, I just click with her immediately as if we were never apart. She feels so happy that we’re still so close with each other.

Now I feel worried if we’ll still be the same when we meet. I can’t call her at her institution and she can only call my parents in Taiwan. I’ve sent presents and greeting cards to her each year but we haven’t spoken for years now.

When I was putting together the care package for my family this year, I asked my ex-husband to still write the greeting cards for my parents and my sister as if he was still their son-in-law and her brother-in-law. I told my ex-husband that my dad has memory loss and there’s no point in telling him that we are getting divorced, since he’ll forget about it right afterwards. I also don’t want my sister to get worried about us so I told mom not to tell my sister as well. The only person in my family who knows that I’m getting divorced is my mom. She’s been my rock and my sounding board throughout this entire time. I don’t know what I would have done without her.

Will my sister and I still be able to click instantly again just like the good old times? I miss you so much my dear Pooky baby. I can’t wait to see you again… 💕

See You Again

~ Charlie Puth / Dj Frank E

It’s been a long day without you, my friend
And I’ll tell you all about it when I see you again
We’ve come a long way from where we began
Oh, I’ll tell you all about it when I see you again
When I see you again

Damn, who knew?
All the planes we flew, good things we been through
That I’d be standing right here talking to you
‘Bout another path, I know we loved to hit the road and laugh
But something told me that it wouldn’t last
Had to switch up, look at things different, see the bigger picture
Those were the days, hard work forever pays
Now I see you in a better place (see you in a better place)
Uh

How can we not talk about family when family’s all that we got?
Everything I went through, you were standing there by my side
And now you gon’ be with me for the last ride

It’s been a long day without you, my friend
And I’ll tell you all about it when I see you again (I’ll see you again)
We’ve come a long way (yeah, we came a long way)
From where we began (you know we started)
Oh, I’ll tell you all about it when I see you again (I’ll tell you)
When I see you again

First, you both go out your way and the vibe is feeling strong
And what’s small turned to a friendship, a friendship turned to a bond
And that bond will never be broken, the love will never get lost
(The love will never get lost)
And when brotherhood come first, then the line will never be crossed
Established it on our own when that line had to be drawn
And that line is what we reached, so remember me when I’m gone
(Remember me when I’m gone)

How can we not talk about family when family’s all that we got?
Everything I went through you were standing there by my side
And now you gon’ be with me for the last ride

So let the light guide your way, yeah
Hold every memory as you go
And every road you take
Will always lead you home, home

It’s been a long day without you, my friend
And I’ll tell you all about it when I see you again
We’ve come a long way from where we began
Oh, I’ll tell you all about it when I see you again
When I see you again

When I see you again (yeah, uh)
See you again (yeah, yeah, yeah)

When I see you again