Day: March 23, 2022

🌹 Nothing New πŸ’

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I think I am going through an identity crisis right now… I think it may also be because my birthday is coming up soon.

Nothing New ~ Taylor Swift

Taylor Swift’s “Nothing New” reflects her feelings of growing older. She describes the “Red” album as resembling a “heartbroken person.” In her announcement of the re-release on Twitter, she wrote: “It was all over the place, a fractured mosaic of feelings that somehow all fit together in the end. Happy, free, confused, lonely, devastated, euphoric, wild, and tortured by memories past.”

I’ve been married for so long, who will I become once my divorce is finalized? Do I change my surname back to my maiden name? I have three educational degrees, and various licenses & certificates. It took me a long time to change those names to my married surname, and now I gotta do that all over again and change them back to my maiden name?????

This may seem like a small detail in the process of getting divorced, but somehow, that is triggering an identity crisis within me now.

Who was I before I got married? Who was I during my marriage, and Who will I become after I’m divorced? Who Am I? Which one is the real me???

Nothing New

~ Taylor Swift

They tell you while you’re young
“Girls, go out and have your fun”
Then they hunt and slay the ones who actually do it
Criticize the way you fly when you’re soarin’ through the sky
Shoots you down and then they sigh, and say
“She looks like she’s been through it”

Lord, what will become of me
Once I’ve lost my novelty? I’ve had too much to drink tonight
And I know it’s sad, but this is what I think about
And I wake up in the middle of the night
It’s like I can feel time moving
How can a person know everything at 18 but nothing at 22?
And will you still want me when I’m nothing new?

How long will it be cute
All this crying in my room
WhΠ΅n you can’t blame it on my youth
And roll your eyes with affΠ΅ction? And my cheeks are growing tired
From turning red and faking smiles
Are we only biding time ’til I lose your attention?
And someone else lights up the room?
People love an ingΓ©nue

I’ve had (I’ve had) too much to drink tonight
How did I go from growing up to breaking down?
And I wake up (wake up) in the middle of the night
It’s like I can feel time moving
How can a person know everything at 18 but nothing at 22?
Will you still want me when I’m nothing new?

I know someday I’m gonna meet her, it’s a fever dream
The kind of radiance you only have at 17
She’ll know the way, and then she’ll say she got the map from me
I’ll say I’m happy for her, then I’ll cry myself to sleep
Oh, whoa, whoa
Oh, whoa, whoa, oh, whoa, oh

I’ve had (I’ve had) too much to drink tonight
But I wonder if they’ll miss me once they drive me out
I wake up (wake up) in the middle of the night
And I can feel time moving
How can a person know everything at 18 but nothing at 22? And will you still want me
Will you still want me
Will you still want me
When I’m nothing new?

Source(s): The Real Meaning Behind Taylor Swift’s Nothing New Featuring Phoebe Bridgers

🌺 Chapter 10 – Establishing a Healthy Daily Structure

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  • Theme / Agenda for the Chapter:
  • 😴 Establishing a Healthy Daily Structure
  • Affirmations / Quotes for the Chapter:
  • πŸ’— Eat Well. Move Daily. Hydrate Often. Sleep More. Love Your Body! πŸ˜›
  • Introduction:
  • A daily and weekly structure, with a balanced distribution of work, activity and leisure, is of great importance for everyone.
  • Structure helps people keep track of time and of what they are doing, so they can be more attentive and able to concentrate, and less worried or confused about what comes next.
  • Structure may help reduce the risk of intrusion of, or switching among, parts of the personality; it may also help reduce the risk of prolonged flashbacks or sinking into depression.
  • 1. Problems with Daily Structure for People with a Complex Dissociative Disorder:
  • You may start and stop a number of different tasks without finishing anything. This β€œstart-stop” behavior, often due to the interference of parts, leaves all parts of you burdened by yet more unfinished business, depleting your energy further.
  • Without inner communication and cooperation, the activities and plans of some parts may overlap and interfere with those of other parts of yourself.
  • 2. Reflections on Developing a Healthy Daily Structure:
  • Would you be willing to push just a little to do one or two activities each day?
  • If you decide to develop a new structure or routine, do not criticize yourself or other parts if you are not able to keep it all the time. Just try again! You do not have to be perfect to be successful. For most people, it takes several months (and sometimes even more) to make a new routine become a more automatic habit.
  • 3. Additional Tips:
  • Try to go outside every day and get 15 – 20 minutes of sun.
  • Try to have contact with other people at least several times a week, especially if you live alone.
  • 4. Keeping Track of Time:
  • 5. Developing Healthy Work Habits:
  • People often have particular dissociative parts that deal with work, while other parts may be unaware of work. Some parts may sabotage or interfere with work or projects, or prefer to play instead of work. And parts living in trauma-time may become triggered by various situations at work, such as an angry or irritated boss.
  • 6. Reflections on Developing a New Healthy Daily Structure:
  • Consider which activities give you energy or drain you of energy. Try to cooperate with all parts of yourself to set a realistic daily pace, given your energy level and the amount of energy your activities give or demand of you.
  • 7. Homework:
  • a. Your Current Daily Structure:
  • Describe your current daily structure and routines so you assess what is working well for you and what might need to be different. Include the approximate amount of time you spend in each of the four categories listed below. You do not have to go into detail.
  • i. Work / tasks / chores / appointments / meals
  • ii. Leisure and social time, for instance, hobbies, being with friends
    or family
  • iii. Personal time for yourself, including inner reflection and
    communication with parts
  • iv. Do nothing; that is, watch mindless TV, surf the Internet, play
    video games, stare at the wall, sleep, and so on.
  • b. Developing a Realistic and Healthy Daily Structure and Routine:
  • Now describe a realistic and healthy structure and routine that you would like to develop in the next few months. Before you begin, you may want to refer back to the earlier section on reflections for helping you develop your new structure and routine. Remember to change only one thing at a time so you will not become overwhelmed or discouraged
  • Thoughts:
  • Miscellaneous: