Day 12: Think Dialectically:
Sometimes we may experience the struggle between one part of us having a desire or thought, and another part of us experiencing the polar opposite desire or thought. e.g. “I hate you”, and “I don’t want you to leave me”.
This may be distressing and become difficult to make a wise decision. We may see our options as severely limited to the two polar opposite, black or white options that are coming to mind at the moment. Take some deep breaths, and tell yourself “Let me try to find the shades of grey”.
When we think in just black and white, we have only two extreme options. We may end up feeling trapped and anxious. Learn to compromise and find other options in the middle ground.
Source(s):
Stop Sabotaging: A 31 Day DBT Challenge to Change Your Life
by Debbie Corso