Day 8: Respect Yourself:
Learn to keep your self-respect intact when interacting with others.
Use the acronym FAST:
F = (be) Fair – Use fairness in dealing with both yourself and others.
A = (no) Apologies – You have a right to have your needs met. There is no need to apologize for speaking your mind respectfully.
S = Stick to Values – If you are aware of any values you have around the situation at hand, respect those. If someone tries to get you to go against your values, let them know that you will not.
T = (be) Truthful – Stay in the truth. Avoid falling into the “victim” mentality of someone who needs to be rescued, to lie, or to exaggerate to get your needs met. You’ll respect yourself more if you avoid these behaviors and just stick to the truth.
(Linehan, 1993)
By honoring our values, we live in integrity and have positive emotions towards ourselves. We end up caring more about our well-being and the outcome of our lives.
Source(s):
Stop Sabotaging: A 31 Day DBT Challenge to Change Your Life
by Debbie Corso